Saturday, August 08, 2009

Heartbreak in China

I have been watching a story unfold in China this week that is absolutely breaking my heart. An American family was there adopting their little girl. New rules from the CDC now require newly adopted children to be tested for TB before being allowed to leave their country of origin. This little girl tested positive a month ago, but no one except her orphanage knew. (They were unaware of the new CDC rules.) They began medically treating the child, who is now no longer contagious. Children cannot pass TB via cough anyway, because they are unable to cough hard enough to bring the germ up from their lungs. SO...like I said, this child IS NOT CONTAGIOUS.

She has been denied a visa to the US. Her parents, who have a child back home waiting for them. Neither can stay in China due to both needing to go back to work.

The CDC said their newly adopted daughter needed to have a sputnum test--which she did--and it came back negative. Then the CDC said the test was not performed at a facility that they approved, therefore it could not be accepted. Their facility will take weeks to complete the testing.

Many calls and emails have been made, but it came down to the decision of the top man at the CDC and he refused to grant a waiver to keep this little girl with her family. If this child had been a biological child, she would not have been prevented from going home.

Her parents have had no choice but to leave this little one in China with another family until all the CDC requirements have been met. This is a new law by the CDC, and will no doubt start to affect other families in the adoption process. This law is another example of hysteria-driven rules that make no sense. Why would you keep a child--who is unable to pass the germ to anyone on a plane--from being with his/her family?

I hope that the man in charge at the CDC will take the time to watch the heartbreaking video of this family being torn apart. At the very end, the little girl is crying and begging her new daddy, "Daddy, please don't leave. Daddy, please don't leave." I watched it with tears streaming down my face.

As an adoptive mom, knowing how fragile the emotional bonds are the first few weeks, I cannot imagine what this little girl is going though--and how many, MANY months and years it will take her to overcome this. How will she ever learn to trust her new parents when she has no way of understanding WHY they left her in China? It is much more than just a few weeks of separation. To her--this is an eternity--and she will most likely not get over this for a very long time. I have wanted to remain calm about this situation and not jump on a bandwagon of hysteria, but after watching all the hoops the adoptive parents jumped through this week to try to keep their family together, I am now outraged at the total miscarriage of justice that has taken place. Here is the family's blog if you want to read the full story.

12 comments:

Cari Bacon said...

I have been following this family's story as well. Last night, I watched the video of the family having to leave her. It is heartbreaking! I could not help but feel their pain as my own tears ran down my face. It's so frustrating. I hope this gets on the news to make more people aware of what's going on.

Lori said...

I haven't been able to watch the video yet. I'm not sure I want to. My heart being so broken for orphans already, I'm just not sure I can handle seeing it.

This is unfathomable. I really wish there was something we could have done to help this family stay united. The government taking control of families is WAY beyond their boundaries...though things seem to be changing in that direction, don't they? Unfortunately, this is probably only the beginning.

I'm disgusted.

Kimberlie said...

Karin,
I haven't been able to watch the video either. I cry just thinking about the situation. My heart breaks for them, and I am angered beyond words. Why couldn't this little girl just wear a mask on the plane? I think there is an inherent prejudice within our government organizations against international adoption right now. It needs to change. No adopted child, whether adopted abroad or domestically, should be considered in any way different than a biological child.

I am disgusted too!

Sharon said...

I have been following along with this horrifying situation also. Was a little relieved to hear from your blog that she would be with a family rather than going back to the orphanage. So sad!

Cate said...

I didn't like the CDC before this because of some vaccine views, but this is OVER THE TOP. I pray she can come home soon!

Lynsay said...

hey, I watched it too, crying and heartbroken. I'm so upset, and I know how much pressure this is going to put on other families who are waiting for their children, and the implication for the kids who are waiting right now. It is just so frustrating.

Gretchen said...

I too posted this on my blog, but I felt that there were some parts that you worded better than me, so I copied some of your post.

What a horrible event. Very scary!

Our little girl will be tested next month when we go to bring her home.

Holly said...

This was the topic of my blog post today as well.
(sigh)

Adeye said...

Oh friend--there simply are no words. My heart is absolutely broken for this little girl. We know first hand the emotional trauma a child endures when they are 'returned'--being too young to understand. The emotional scars Haven deals with are more than we are able to comprehend.
This child has been let down terribly. My heart is aching for her.

Michelle said...

I have been following this too! I cried so hard and was so upset my older kids thought that something had happen to their Grandparents. I have been praying for this family all week and will continue to do so until their little girl is home where she belongs.

julee said...

yes it is so sad. There are many of us who have been dealing with this awhile in Ethiopia. Many are working to change the CDCs rules, but until then the best we have been able to have happen at least in ET is to get them to do the TB tests before embassey appointment///for the HIV kids like our son the CDC reguires a sputum test which means a ng tube down stomach for theree days and then the test take 2+ months to come back...before you ever know is they are TB positive or not. So very hard!

Julee

The Ferrill's said...

Hi Karin,
A friend of mine directed me to your blog and I am so thankful! You are a great writer...I've been praying for this family.
Karin, if you have a minute, I REALLY need to talk with you about something adoption related...can you email me? I promise I'm not a stalker...just another mom of many on the road to one more who has somethings in common with one of your children...
flipflopsrus@windstream.net
Thanks so much!
Laine Ferrill in Alabama