Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Children are a reward

"Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them."
Psalm 127:3-5

Often, when I tell people that I have ten children, they look shocked and say, "Ten?! Wow...bless your heart. I have two and I can't even handle them." As I have said before, I only 'handle' having ten kids with God's strength flowing through me. Because of this reaction, it is tempting for me to sometimes think I am doing God a favor by adopting the children He has laid on our hearts.

The other day when I was reading my Bible, it hit me in a new way that God considers children a blessing straight from His arms to ours. I think most people would go along with that--as long as they get to decide how many times God can bless them.

In our culture we tend to think of children as being:
high maintenance
a financial drain
an emotional and energy drain

But God says they are:
a heritage from Him (ie: a gift of great value)
a reward

I don't know about you but when I am cleaning up endless messes, changing diapers, and other 'menial' tasks, I'm not always focused on how these little people are a reward. A REWARD.

I sat and thought about that for awhile. If I truly believe that they are a reward, and a special gift, how would I respond if God asked me to adopt again? Honestly...I would probably groan. I adore my kids, but I'm thinkin' it's someone else's turn to go to China.

I read the next verse...'Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.' What is a quiver? It's a sheath for holding the arrows. Over the years I have heard many arguments over how many arrows are supposed to be in a quiver--and I truly don't know how many there should be. But if you were in a battle--wouldn't it be good to have um...a lot? Like have that honker STUFFED with arrows? (OK--if my husband is reading this right now, he is probably having a stroke!) It's pointless to try to figure out how many arrows are supposed to be in a quiver. I think the point that God was trying to make was that just like a warrior would try to take as many arrows as possible into battle, the more children you have, the more blessed you are.

The rewards may be in the gift of giggles and laughter that rings through the house. The soft hand that reaches for yours. That surprise hug from behind that makes you fall over because you were hunched over and not expecting it. The spontaneous, "I lub you, Mama." How many times have I been having a bad day and my kids did something hysterically funny that suddenly lightened the moment? Or the times I have been sick and they led me to the couch, told me to lie down and tucked me in with their blankies?

Is there anything else that I would rather be doing with my life? Despite having big dreams of other things, I can honestly say that those dreams pale in comparison to walking the path that God has laid out for our family. I'm not doing HIM a favor. He's doing ME a favor. God always gives us His best. My kids are proof of that.

"Wook, Mom. When we wick ouw vitamin it stickths to ouw fathe."
Translation: When we lick our vitamin, it sticks to our face."


Holly said...

Oh Karin. I just love you!
I am still laughing at the honker stuffed full image.
Praise God for revelations!!

trustandobey said...

Thank you for being soooo honest. We all appreciate the feelings and emotions that we naturally share as overwhelmed moms on our walks with the Lord. It is hard to think that we struggle with some of this alone. Thank goodness santification is a process that the Lord will see to the finish!

Angie said...

I've read that verse so many times but never thought about how many arrows should be in the quiver. Yes, I want my "honker" stuffed. I'm ready...send me to China...or whereever!

Anonymous said...

My husband and I were just having this conversation last night. After going through the adoption process, God has redefined dreams for me.
I love your posts!

Cari Bacon said...

Karin, I love that verse! I believe quivers hold different amounts for each person, and you said it well with it's what you need for battle. Coming from a "not a kid person" I'm full of joy of the four soon to be five that God has blessed us with. I hope and pray for even more "rewards" in the near future! :)

You can rest for a while, it's my turn to go to China...haha!

Gretchen said...


I am so glad that you wrote this post. This is my absolute favorite verse! I too was just talking with my husband about this very thing. I am so very open to as many arrows in our quiver as God would like us to have...He just brings my hubby along one...arrow...at...a...time...

Adeye said...


You need to read "A Full Quiver", Hess is the author. Amazing book that speaks about all the things your wrote about. They talk about the quiver there--I read it a few years ago, but I think they said that a 'full quiver' is 12 or 14 (can't remember which one). The good news for you, my dear friend, is that you are almost there. Not quite. But almost. I, on the other hand, have a very long way to go. Talk about hubby having a stroke :):):)

Beautiful Mess said...

I LOVE the pic of your son-too cute!

This blessed my heart so!

It is something my hubby and I don't exactly see eye-to-eye on but I am praying for God to open his eyes and heart to more children.

As he goes bow hunting this weekend I may slip that verse in his quiver ;)

Hon's Daddy said...

Well, at least now I have an idea of why we keep going back to China!

The Ferrill's said...

Love it, love it, love it, love it, and I love it!
Did I mention I love this post?
Hope you are all doing well, Karin!

Penny said...

heh, and when you lick the gummy bears they'll stick to the wall. And leave a colorful zoo of bears behind.

Ann said...

What a wonderful insight at the end of long draining day at the hospital. Wishing you well as you continue to transition to your new home.